These are the guys I crush on (yes, at 40 years old, I still crush on guys!)
Here’s the thing, it’s not necessarily for the reasons you may think (or that I even thought originally)….
Yeah, they are all good looking but there’s more to it.
Colin Farrell: he’s the bad boy, buuut as he’s grown from when he first hit the American scene, he’s a father and although he was a playboy and had drug problems, after his children were born he’s been cleaning himself up in such a beautiful way. I love seeing people win & he is definitely doing that in my eyes. Which make him #sexy to me.
Tom Hardy: again, bad boy (maybe I have a type???) but he really seems smart to me. It’s as if he makes intentional moves with the films he chooses. Smart is sexy + the bad boy, I think I’m may melt! And, have you seen his animal pics?!?! I love my doggies & he loves his! Super Sexy!
Joseph Gordon-Levitt: not a bad boy, but he seems smart & genuine. And cool. Like the nerdy type cool (but mostly just cool). He’s also artsy which is mysterious and sexy to me.
Mike Espinoza: you may not know him, but he’s sexy AF! And he’s my hubby. He has a little bit of each of the guys’ qualities. He was the bad boy when we met. He has grown up in such a beautiful ways (kindness, loving, giving, helping). He loves doggies as much as I do. And he’s smart in a nerdy way. I love him. And everything about him.
Here’s the thing and the point…
All of the qualities I admire in them, I have within myself, I just had forgotten.
But this isn’t about me or my crushes.
This is about YOU. Who do you crush on?
What are the qualities that they have that make you crush on them?
Here’s the real work: in what ways do you express those same qualities?
See, usually we are attracted to what’s on the outside, then we make up a story of what they may have on the inside. And usually the things we are looking for in others are things we feel we are somewhat lacking in ourselves (this is usually a subconscious ideal).
Really contemplate this, what are the qualities your crush has that you admire and in what ways do you express them?
I think when you do this you’ll find that those are qualities within yourself that you probably overlook. Start honoring and admiring yourself a bit more, you deserve it.